Stolen Vows

Unilateral Divorce is Unconstitutional

“Stolen Vows” by Judy Parejko  details the dirty legislative history behind the grievously mis-named legal travesty called “no fault” divorce and how it only thrives by legally discriminating against a class of U.S. citizens called Respondents.  The primary beneficiaries of this lucrative law: adulterers, predatory spouse-poachers, and the entrenched legal industry which profits indefinitely for years after the “putting-asunder” of what God has joined.

Losers: Ultimately, our once-great nation….taxpayers, churches, families, children, grandchildren, innocent spouses, long-marrieds near retirement, disciples (married to prodigals) who take the Lord Jesus Christ at His Word: (Luke 16:18) “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the one who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”

Reportedly, 80% of spouses dragged into “Family Court” by the one they trusted are forcibly divorced against their will (and against God’s will), increasingly after as long as 30 to 40 years of marriage. When this occurs, the unconstitutionality of this law makes a defense virtually impossible, and usually strips property, children and reputation away from the innocent spouse, especially if there’s any resistance shown by the “Respondent”  to the action, awarding the spoils to the one whose own guilt (or an adulterous ultimatum) initiated the divorce filing.


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13 thoughts on “Unilateral Divorce is Unconstitutional”

  1. SiFC, I don’t know if you have heard, but: you seem to have an ally in one consistently conservative voice for the family. I’m referring to Phyllis Schlafly, who yesterday and today has been a 2-day guest on Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk radio broadcast. The title of her discussion is her recent book, “The Death of the American Family”. When speaking about the subject of “no-fault” divorce, she even corrected Dr. Dobson by agreeing with you that the proper way to refer to this condition is “unilateral divorce”. She is now the second public figure whom I have heard use this term in conversation / discussion. (You are the first!)
    I hope you and your readers receive this as encouraging news. For any interested readers, the original 2-days of broadcast may be found at:

  2. Aw, John – if you call me a “public figure” it might go to my head, then I’d be worthless to the Kingdom! (Phyllis, on the other hand, is a bona-fide public figure. ) – “Standerinfamilycourt”

  3. I would love to see the divorce laws changed! I feel that if one spouse is unwilling that a divorce should never be granted!

  4. I just went through an unwanted divorce…divorced against my will for the sake of adultery. The separation completely tore my family apart. The short end of this story is that I am standing in the gap for my marriage & family, trusting God for a miracle in our healing, reconciliation and restoration, ultimately a transformation. Thank you for publicly taking such a bold stand in defense of godly marriage & family! God bless you!

    1. Hello,
      Thank God I found this site. So very sorry for all of the injustice you & your Family suffer.
      Perhaps you may find some consolation through a group called and a book they discuss once a month called “The Gift Of Self” by Maria Pia Campanella of Palermo Italy. God heal & bless all. Judy’s book” Stolen Vows” is the first eye opener I read . This book ecpresses wgat many think& feel but cannot find proof or words Judy ckearly provudes. Joan D. Ford

    2. Same here. I didn’t want the divorce. I didn’t file. I still love my husband, and I don’t think there really IS such a thing as an “ex” spouse.

  5. So sorry to hear about that, Yvette. In our lawless society you are far from alone, but there’s a movement forming and growing of people who are determined to do something about it, with God’s help. If you aren’t following our FB page, please check it out.

    Here are a few resources you might find helpful:
    (1) Rejoice Marriage Ministries
    (2) Our blog “God’s Covenants and His Character (May, 2015)
    (3) The Facebook closed group: Covenant Marriage Standers
    (this group only admits and retains standers who have come out of all non-covenant relationships and are standing only for restoration of their original marriage – provided it was not with someone who has a living prior spouse.)

  6. The battle against unwanted Divorce is stronger in 2016. Let this be the most important issue in the Synod of Catholic Bishops. Should the Church offer advice , reparation , direction to those who have harmed Familes at least by reminding them a sincere apology may be of some consolation ??

    1. Our belated thanks for your comment Joan. We are a multi-faith page, but you can bet we’ve followed the Synods, Amoris Laetitia and the family-destructive actions of the current pontiff quite closely.

  7. I have another nutty idea. No Fault divorce is one of the most wicked laws ever forced on the innocent for the profit of the a profession however, it is not a constitutional issue.
    No fault divorce was ‘marketed’ as a way to reduce the stress and cost of divorces by lawyers.
    Instead it had the effect the Lawyers wanted, more income.
    The legal mess of divorce was once before the divorce and ended at the divorce. Now the legal mess, and income for lawyers lasts for the lifetime of the parties and can extend for generations as inheritances are disputed.

    However, this is not a constitutional matter.

    You have to create a class other than ‘all’ which we have seen in the special classes based on race, gender and sexual orientation in order for this to be a constitutional issue.

    I do not think we want to add victims as a specially protected class of people.

    It is a moral issue and is the responsibility of legislatures and not the courts.

    You are clearly on the right track on the cause and results of no-fault divorce.

    Moses wrote the laws about divorce because of the wickedness of the hearts of the people. No-fault divorce laws were passed by wicked and evil men.

    1. You are mistaken that it is not a constitutional issue. Indeed, features of the laws in all 50 states create both a 1st and 14th amendment violation at the very least. If it were not, some very choosy constitutional / religious freedom specialist attorneys would never have taken “standerinfamilycourt’s ” appeals case in 2014. Just this past spring several constitutional attorneys testified before the Texas legislature, and they all testified to that effect. Those video’s were run on our FB page around April, 2017 and can be searched out on YouTube. Earlier posts on this blog described in great detail the constitutional violation involved.

      One very senior Texas constitutional attorney is pursuing a strategy of choosing a state where there are very few counties, and is seeking take on 3 or 4 appeals cases pro-bono in different states that each have a small number of counties, where he will have each county disgorge their divorce records. He says that if he can document that in all of the time since each state passed its unilateral divorce law, no defendant has ever had an opportunity to prevail against the plaintiff — in other words, 100% of unwithdrawn petitions are granted. He says that alone (notwithstanding the violations of parental rights, property rights, compelled speech in signing an immoral document to avoid being put on trial, we could go on and on) makes these laws unconstitutional. If he gets differing appeals outcomes in those states in more that one district, he can get it to the Supreme Court. All that said, these laws will come down when they are prayed down by the saints.

  8. I’m a defendant for the 1st time in my life. After 27 yrs as a police officer and retiring honorable, I now must sit in a defendants chair. For what crime or tort have I committed you may ask, I got married and now must defend myself in a no fault case. My spouse file papers to “Pray to the Court for Justice”. No attorney has given me chance in hell to find it. God help me!

    1. We’re working with others on getting this changed, but it’s going to take tireless effort and possibly another decade or two, due to the entrenched economic interests, and the disgusting apathy of the church. Our pages are all about bringing stakeholders together. Very sorry for all you’re going through, Chris. You can find other posts about winning your spouse back God’s way.

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