Put me like a seal over your heart,
Like a seal on your arm.
For love is as strong as death,
Jealousy is as severe as Sheol;
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
The very flame of the Lord.
“Many waters cannot quench love,
Nor will rivers overflow it;
If a man were to give all the riches of his house for love,
It would be utterly despised.”
– Song of Solomon 8: 6 – 7
A fan of our Facebook page, Unilateral Divorce is Unconstitutional, “inboxed” us one recent evening to ask if we knew of any holy matrimony couples who had been “divorced” under man’s immoral laws and later came out of non-covenant “remarriages” with others to be reconciled to each other by the power of God. We have been sharing true stories like this all week leading up to Valentine’s Day, and we’re not finished yet!
(* names have been fictionalized to protect the privacy of SIFC’s own son’s mother and father in law, but the facts are true and real.)
One blustery late afternoon in February several years ago, our son asked a young lady to marry him after he had led her to the Lord, and she accepted. SIFC had met this young lady on two or three previous occasions, on the first of which, she temporarily had blue hair and various body piercings. The next occasion saw her at our home prior to attending a business dinner as our son’s escort, and I was asked to lend her a pair of tights for the evening so that the “cutting” scars on her legs would not show. It wasn’t long after that, that an early May wedding was scheduled, and the mother-of- the-groom was heading toward the home of her parents to assist the mother-of-the-bride with her gown for the occasion, sewing basket in hand. The family story that unfolded as we prepared for this wedding was an amazing one indeed.
Sonny, his pastor brother “Sam”, and Sally were all from Cajun country in Louisiana, and now were living and working in north central Illinois. Sonny and Sally married young, not long after finishing high school. Unlike the brother, neither Sonny nor Sally are born-again believers to this very day, despite Sonny’s and Sam’s father also being a pastor. Grandfather and uncle co-officiated at the tender wedding of our children in 2011.
A few years into Sonny and Sally’s marriage, Sally met another man and divorced Sonny. She remarried this other man, taking two children, including our daughter-in-love, into this new “marriage”. To the two dark-headed, olive-complected covenant children were eventually added a blonde half-sister. God was nevertheless gracious to Sally, and after some time, He pulled her out of that unholy matrimony union. In due time, she was back home and remarried to Sonny, who had honored his original vows and did not remarry. (Having now met the whole family, I have to strongly suspect the unrelenting prayers of the elder pastor and his wife, Sally’s in-laws back in Louisiana.)
Though Sonny remains a polite but firm atheist, he did not hesitate to forgive his covenant wife, nor raise his little non-covenant step-daughter in such a way that you would never know she is not his own flesh and blood. As far as SIFC is aware, the biological dad has not been part of our son’s sister-in-law’s life since the non-covenant marriage was dissolved between the parents.
This divorce and remarriage trial has left its scars scattered through the family, on several levels that reflect the unresolved need for this home to be introduced to Jesus Christ, so that He may become the center of that home. One of the violent crimes against heaven, when satan drags off a believing spouse into a life of covenant family abandonment and legalized adultery, is that he or she is “AWOL” when a Sonny and Sally enter our lives, speaking of SIFC’s own prodigal, who would have gone out of his way to minister to Sonny a few years before falling away himself. There is no other couple of similar age and experience to model a Christ-centered, restored marriage in front of them, nor moral authority to witness to them that no covenant marriage is beyond God’s touch to bring about ALL of His purposes for it. Among Sonny and Sally’s children, the elder son is a practicing homosexual. Our daughter-in-law has panic attacks, and it’s taken years to get her to wear a swimsuit, due pervasive scars from the season of cutting herself that resulted from the turmoil in her family. Though Sonny has forgiven his wife for these events, the lack of Jesus, and of God’s design for biblical roles in their home has kept their relationship on tense and fragile terms where teamwork is present, but intimacy has never been fully restored. Our son and their daughter have a vibrant, Christ-centered marriage, to the praise of God, and the prayers continue down in Louisiana, as well as in SIFC’s home, for the power of God to get hold of that elder covenant marriage one more time! For nothing will be impossible with God.
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